So, I’m an introvert.. and I thought the blog was a pretty good place to chat about introversion, the misconceptions and the challenges but also the great bits too. I never used to identify specifically as an introvert, simply because I was always told that being an introvert just meant that you were ‘shy’ and ‘lacked confidence’ which I didn’t feel represented me. I’d always felt quite powerful, that I could do anything (probably largely because I grew up in the whole Spice Girls’ ‘Girl Power’ era – I owe you one cheers ladies). Although I’d always been quite a reserved character and definitely more of a listener in groups; I didn’t necessarily see it as shyness, more just assessing the situation and piping up with something worthwhile rather than feeling the need to comment on every little thing.
I stumbled upon ‘Quiet’, by Susan Cain and after reading I felt a sense of relief, as if finally introverts were not portrayed as weak or in some way inferior to the extrovert. It confirmed to me that there can be confident introverts and equally painfully shy extroverts. The differences between the two camps being where you get your energy, for extroverts that is being around people, for introverts -it’s being alone. You’ll often find extroverts needing to fill a large part of their time being around people; with us introverts we’re more likely to chill on our own after being sociable. Being alone is how we re-charge our energy, it’s that simple. I think one of the struggles for an introvert is not wanting to hurt other peoples feelings when we don’t want to hang out after a busy day at work or social event. It’s a tough balance, obviously I adore my friends and love spending time with them, but I also like to be alone sometimes too, and that’s OK. Find what works for you, also if you have been particularly sociable lately and need to recharge on your own, tell your friends that, it’s better than trying to come up with a lame excuse, I feel that’s the only way to get people to understand introversion more. Let’s talk about it ..quietly 🙂
Happy HQ xxx